Changing Holy Diapers

10 04 2014

“Treasure each and every one of these moments, they go by so quickly.”  kids on lawn

What parent hasn’t heard this?  Usually from an older adult, and often when your child is having a melt down in the check out line at the Costco.

It’s a truth no one can deny, and is often not very helpful.

“It just feels like so much pressure,” one mother confided to me at church.  “Not every moment as a parent is actually cherish-able.”

Couple of things for all of us to consider then.

Unsolicited advice; it’s usually more about the one giving it than the one getting it.  If you have the urge to give advice no one has asked for, no matter how sound, it’s probably a good opportunity for self reflection.  Who are we really speaking to?

To the other point.

Can you love your child without being crazy about everything having your child entails?  Like wiping noses, dirty diapers, or scraping peas off the ceiling?

Well yes.  Of course.  Unless sleep deprivation has you a little punchy.  Being less than enamored with every aspect of parenting is pretty typical, and doesn’t mean you’re a deficient mom or dad.

Parents in the midst of actually raising their child, often don’t make or take the time to see the big picture.  Then, out of the blue, they’ll see their child sleeping angelically and be stopped dead in their tracks at the sacredness and beauty of their child and this enterprise they’ve been called to as parents.

Then the kid wakes up and it’s time to change another diaper.

There’s a wonderful book by Jack Kornfield called, “Enlightenment, Then The Laundry.”  The title says it all.

Gradually, the realization dawns that these magical moments don’t really come out of the blue.  They come from all those mundane tasks that seem like drudgery.

It’s like a necklace. You can see it as individual beads, and judge the merits of each bead.  Or, you can let your perception sink deeper.  To the thread that holds them all together.   Voilá.  The necklace comes into view.

So much of our lives are spent in dualistic thinking, judging each bead.  Prayer, contemplation, meditation, teaches us a unitive way of seeing.  It doesn’t mean we don’t have to change any more diapers.  It means that even the diapers we change are opportunities of grace.   Vehicles to a sacredness that surrounds us, all the time.





Taking Worship Public

2 04 2014

We’ve been trying something a little different for Lent this year.  Instead of scrambling to make soup, eat supper in the church basement and then have a worship devotion, our midweek Lenten devotion has gone public.  images
Each Wednesday, we’ve met in a local restaurant, eaten a meal, shared readings, table discussion based on a Scripture passage, and been home in time for young kids (and old pastors) to be in bed.

It took awhile for this idea to gel.  Finding the right spot was important.  Someplace that can seat 10 or so together to allow easy discussion.  So it can’t be too noisy.   Diners work well.  Or a family restaurant.  Even a fast food restaurant can work.  Though they tend to be on the noisy side and tough for people with hearing issues.  Then there’s the ethical issue of patronizing profitable fast food chains paying an “un-living” wage to their employees.

All of that was considered as we chose places to meet.  Once you find the right venue, you might be surprised by some of what you’ll discover.  Here’s what we found.

Taking our worship public has had two particular advantages:

1.  It frees up time for working families to enjoy a devotional focus at midweek.  Getting the evening meal together for the family can be challenging enough.  Preparing a meal for up to 10 extra people, not to mention lugging it to church, the set up and clean up, was becoming a pressured event that achieved the exact opposite of what we were aiming for with a midweek devotion.  Going public changed all that.

2.  The opportunity of being the church in public.  Our presence in the restaurant is a tacit invitation to the other diners to join us.  Or at least, listen in and consider the conversation.  I notice that our conversation, and indeed, our entire time together, has a more relaxed feel to it.  More natural and spontaneous.   That was a kind of an unexpected bonus.

It’s important then to make a sign identifying who you are and inviting others to join you.  And don’t structure the program too much.  Allow the Spirit room to work, enjoy the company of your church family and the presence of God among you, and know that you are almost certainly making an impression on the people around you as well as nurturing your own faith.





Discovering Our True Self

12 03 2014

Lent is a season of self denial.  We take that to mean giving up sweets, or meats, or something we’d probably be better off without anyway.  images

Not that there is anything wrong with this.  We should probably live this way all the time, not just Lent.  So go ahead and give up something.  Make it something good.  For instance, I’m attempting to fast until evening, one day a week.  Taking the money I would have spent for food that day and giving it to Bread for the World.  Anyone care to join me?  Love to have you come along.

Just understand what we’re doing doing and why. Self denial really doesn’t mean denying ourselves; something.  Cookies.  Cake.  Ice cream.  Cigarettes. Wine. Beer. Sugar and spice and everything nice.

We can deny ourselves all of that and more, but if we’re still all about us and what we’re bravely sacrificing, we’ve totally missed the point.  In fact, we’re probably worse off because now we feel righteous, and superior and proud of what we’ve accomplished. We really ARE something, aren’t we!

Self-denial actually means denying ourselves ONE thing.

Look at the temptations of Jesus during his 40 days in the wilderness.  It’s the reason we observe the 40 days of Lent in the first place.

There’s a common theme running through those three temptations.  Jesus is being tempted to make it all about Jesus.

“Turn stones into bread and satisfy your hunger Jesus.”

Well, why not?  Nothing particularly wrong with that.  Jesus will do virtually the same thing when he feeds the 5,000  with a couple of loaves and a few fish.  That was a miracle.  This is a temptation.  What’s the difference?

A miracle is about feeding 5000 hungry people.  A temptation is about Jesus taking matters into his own hands to feed himself after his 40 day fast. Using God as his personal ATM.

Or, throw yourself off the pinnacle of the Temple. Let’s see if God has your back, or foot as the case may be.  Better to know going in whether you can depend on God, right?  You have to watch out for number 1.

Or, bow down to your desire for fame, wealth, and power.  What glory and splendor is at your feet. Yours for the taking. If nothing else, think of all the good you could accomplish.

Isn’t that the basic fantasy everyone has walking away from the counter clutching their lottery ticket?  We envision all the people we will help if we win.  Family.  Friends. All the good we can finally do.  And a new car on the side.  Now, that’s tempting!

You see where this is going.  The three temptations are really one temptation in three different forms.  What’s the point of Jesus life if it is not about Jesus?  What is the point of my life if it is not about me?  My safety, my security, my well-being, my happiness and my fulfillment?  Me, me, me, me…

Jesus denies himSELF, or at least that version of himself, and puts the period there. Today, we’d call that self “ego.” The ego-self takes center stage in the universe, does its little song and dance and waits for the applause. Gives up sugar, or chocolate, or smoking. Turns stones into bread, whole grain organic of course.  TA DA.

Jesus denies this ego-self because this is not who Jesus really is.  And it’s not who we really are either.  Though we spend a tremendous amount of energy on it.  This ego-self is an illusion that leads to a dead end.  A temptation that sells us short and leaves us banging our heads against the wall.  It equates serving and self-serving.  Good with what’s good for me.

What’s the outcome of all that?  Look around.  Does today’s politics look attractive to you?  How about at the vast inequities in our society today.  The ego-self walks a a road that ends in ruin, division, animosity, accusation and blame….

But there is another self.  A more authentic version of Jesus and of us.  A self that doesn’t run everything through the filter of ‘me’.  A self that seeks wholeness and unity in loving the God who loves all things.

A self that perceives the world as God sees it, and fasts because there are too many people in our world without enough to eat.  A self that gives up some small pleasure as a gesture of connection and understanding with those who must live their lives devoid of the pleasures we take for granted.  This is the self-emptying that Paul talks about in Philippians.

You see, the ego-self we deny at Lent is not particularly awful, just like the temptations Jesus faces.  Just kind of stunted.  Not the whole picture, though we treat it as if it is, to our own detriment.  There is something better.

It’s the difference between saying your prayer and living it.  The ego-self says long and elaborate prayers. The disciplines of Lent deny this self so that we can discover a more authentic self, true to who God created us to be.

Not reciting prayers, but living prayer.  Emptying ourselves so that God may fill us.

P.S If you’d like to join me in a Lenten fast, leave a comment.  We can check in with each other.





Thoughts On Transfiguration

2 03 2014

1-sunny-spring-landscape-michal-bednarekWe follow Jesus, not so that we may one day arrive at a heaven where we will find God, but so that we may be more fully present here, where we are, and where God has always been.

 





Decision Day In Arizona

25 02 2014

The Arizona state legislature passed a controversial bill (SB 1062) that would allow businesses to exercise “religious freedom” by denying service to anyone.  The bill is ostensibly written to target same sex couples.  At this writing, SB 1062 awaits the signature of the Arizona Governor (R) Jan Brewer. egy_6209_ww_sonne

As a religious leader, I am disgusted that political calculations like this are done behind the fig leaf of “religious freedom” and I feel compelled to speak out.  Because the only religious freedom being exercised here from a Christian standpoint, is the freedom to ignore Jesus teaching.

Maybe the Arizona legislature was on the golf course this past Sunday, but in church, we heard Jesus point out that God does not discriminate, sending the sun to shine upon the just and the unjust alike (Matthew 5:45).  Something the Arizona legislature should be extremely grateful for at this point.

Gov. Brewer, your state legislature has already caused enough pain to same sex couples and shame to the state of Arizona.  I hope you will do what your legislature didn’t.  Go to the window.  Look at the beautiful sun drenched landscape of your lovely state.

If you do, you’ll know what to do with SB 1062.





Perfectly Free To Be

24 02 2014

“You must be perfect as your Heavenly Father is perfect.”  Matthew 5:48  Orchid

What’s perfection?

As far as we’re concerned, when something works, it’s perfect. The better it works, the more perfect it is.

Perfection equals success.  But, success is relative, and certainly not permanent.  What works in one situation will not necessarily work in another.  Even the things that are perfect answers in a given situation aren’t perfect forever.

Look at Kodak.  Look at Blackberry.  Perfect business models that failed to adapt and evolved into a perfect mess.

Perfection if it exists at all, exists as possibility and must continually evolve in response to ever changing needs and circumstances.

So, if God is perfect (I wonder how high a priority that is for God, really) it’s perfection on a sliding scale. For example, God is perfectly free, and if God is perfectly free, God is perfectly free not to be perfect.

Perfection is not an attribute that describes God as much as God defines and describes perfection.

So what in the world does it mean to be perfect as God is perfect?  Could you be? And would it even be worth it if you could?

I think with some sadness of all the people who went home from church on Sunday deflated by the demand to be perfect, or worse, those who went home with insufferable people who thought they already were.

If God is perfect, it’s only insofar as God is perfectly God.  And we are perfect when we are true to our highest selves, which is another way of saying being true to who God created us to be.

What does that look like?  That’s what Jesus is describing.  Not mindlessly following eye for an eye rules, or traditions, or doctrines.  Not judging others.  Not condemning those who are different.  Not even in striving to be perfect.

It looks like turning the other cheek when struck.  Returning good for evil.

Being perfect as God is perfect means clearing away the clutter, the pride, the ego, all the false ideas we have about ourselves.  Dropping all the baggage, all the posturing, all the brinkmanship and all the games that all too quickly come to define us.

It means in short, renouncing everything that makes turning the other cheek so difficult and reclaiming who we are in the image of God, declared good in all our imperfection since the beginning of creation.

That’s who we truly are.  That’s what we should strive to become.





So, You Wanna Get To Heaven?

6 02 2014

“We are saved by grace through faith, apart from works of law.”  As Lutherans, we get a little choked up when we hear those words, you’ll just have to excuse us.  _1KN3600

Martin Luther lifted this little gem from Saint Paul’s letter to the Romans, and it became the lynchpin of the Lutheran Reformation.

For the benefit of the non-Lutherans out there (and probably more than a couple of Lutherans too), Lutherans have always taken this to mean that we don’t earn our salvation by doing good deeds (works of law), or even by being good.

Salvation is ours purely out of the grace of God.   Furthermore, God’s grace becomes real in our lives by faith, which is just another way of saying, by trusting it.

Powerful stuff.  And, just a bit counter-intuitive.  Even Santa Claus knows if you’ve been bad or good.  And ever since we ran to our stockings on Christmas morning and breathed a sigh of relief—no coal—we’ve been taught through a system of external punishments and rewards.

Justice is when actions and consequences match up the way they’re supposed to.  Injustice (and grace too ironically) is when they don’t.

Grace is being rewarded when we don’t deserve it.   Injustice is being punished when we don’t deserve it.

This kind of “grace-talk” makes people, and institutions, very nervous.  Grace means institutions lose their leverage and grace means we do too.  Institutions will build elaborate schemes to channel grace and make it behave.  So do we, because trusting grace feels like leaving an awful lot to chance.  Very risky.  We’d rather hedge our bet with a couple of good deeds.

If actions and consequences are out the window when it comes to the most important question any of us will face—where will we spend eternity—then what?   Why be good if there is no payoff?   Why not be rotten to the core if there is no punishment?   Either way, I’m going to heaven!?!

I’m not sure I want to go to Disney World if the losing team gets to go too.

But that’s the whole point!  Saved by grace is not about going to heaven.  It’s about how we’re going to live right now!

You want to win a million dollars?  Here, it’s yours!  Now what are you going to do?

You want to be loved despite how broken and unlovable you feel most times?  Here, you’re loved! Unequivocally and absolutely!  Now, what are you going to do?

You want to get to heaven?  Here, you’re going!  Now what are you going to do? 

Saved by grace, through faith is really just another way of saying, “ball’s in your court, now what?”

People who get that and trust God’s grace,  behave in life affirming ways for the same reasons lottery winners buy new cars.

Grace-led people open their hearts to those who are different, they take big risks, they fail more times than not, and find its true, its all true.  Heaven isn’t some far off thing.  Heaven begins here.  Trusting God’s grace means living with one foot inside the Pearly Gates right now!

Or, to put it another way.  Salvation isn’t so much God’s plan to get you to Heaven when you die some day.  Salvation is God’s plan to get Heaven to you, so you can live today!








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